Malaika’s Perspective of me:
1. you’re insanely good looking 😉
2. you know how to calm me down, i don’t know how but you’re so attune to what i need (empathetic)
3. you’re crazy smart and idk why you always turn to me for help kasi kayang kaya mo naman (sometimes i feel stupid but idk if that’s because i’m intimidated or i’m just insecure)
4. hmm i don’t think you handle stress very well but that’s okay. i just wish i knew how to help you or calm you down but i know we’ve learned to work and all.
5. you’re a really good person. i know you’re all gago especially to your friends but i think one of the things i love most about you and that i’ve always loved about you is that you’re really caring and it doesn’t necessarily show upfront. you see that really pure part of you when you dig deeper and i really love that and i think that made me fall in love with you
6. you care about your family, you love them (super plus points)
7. you’re insecure a lot when it’s about me and i wish you weren’t and i wish i knew why but i have to admit it’s really lessened over the year and i’m really happy about that. i wish i knew how to take it away completely
8. you’re very generous. you have a lot and hindi nakakasama sa loob sayo na magbigay sa iba. i remember you told me once you always had extra money in case someone needed your help
9. you care about how you look. do not get me wrong, this is not at all a bad thing. it’s just new to me because i’ve always been the girl who didn’t care heheh (kungwari pretty lang talaga HAHAHAH JOKE)
10. you love animals (especially champy). i swear this is the softie part of you i fell in love with 11. you’re really funny. i know it’s weird na i thought of this late na since it’s one of your top things. since grade
11, you were always the one people looked to for a laugh. i guess i’m just not usually witness to that too much anymore, not in the same way at least. we have different jokes now, just us 🙂 i like that
My perspective of Malaika’s perspective of me:
Hi Chavit, I always say this to you, but I think you’re really thin, too thin. I always have to remind you that you need to eat on time and that you should lessen your exercises. Though, despite my reminders, you always seem to forget. You also keep saying about how fat you’ve gotten.
You’re weird. Ever since I met you in grade 11, you had some kind of weird and awkward vibe to you. You would never say Hi, or start a conversation for that matter and it was always me who was initiating with you. Until recently, you could never look into anyone’s eyes directly when talking to them and you often look somewhere else when talking or being talked to. For the first few hangouts we’ve had, you didn’t speak to me at all, or if you did, it would be one word replies and it would sound monotonous.
You’re shy. You find it really difficult to open up to people often find yourself being quiet and alone. This goes back to your socially awkward self when you don’t know what to say at certain points in a conversation and it just results in awkward silence.
You love your cat very much. When we started becoming close, I got introduced to your cat, champy, and I saw a different side of you that I think very few people know of.
You can get aggressive sometimes. When times are hard and the stress is piling up on you, you tend to be angry and irritated. You often need to punch things to destress and most of the time, you prefer to be alone to avoid influencing people with your anger
You’re handsome. I always said that to you even before we got together, but you would always deny it.
You’re noisy. Once we got close, you started becoming more open, initiating conversations out of the blue, louder, more enthusiastic about socializing. I saw this even before we got close, when you would goof around with your barkada in class.
You’re funny. You always seem to make me laugh with your corny jokes and I’m sure your friends agree with me when I say that you were the class clown in grade 11. Even if you’re shy, you try your best to crack jokes in class and you always seem to know the correct ones to say.
You’re smart. I think you’re gifted in Mathematics, I would always ask help from you, though you would repeatedly say that I can’t rely on you in that subject. You would always get high scores on our tests.
Evidently, there are similarities right off the bat. Both descriptions converge in me being “handsome”, somewhat smart, my aggressiveness amidst stress, my love for my cat, and my humorous personality. The wording may vary slightly but in essence they mean to say the same thing about me.
On the other hand, both perspectives offer adjectives that were not mentioned in each other’s descriptions. Those that were mentioned by Malaika that did not coincide with my description were my empathy, my caringness, my insecurity, generosity, and my insecurities. While in my perspective, it was my thinness, weirdness, awkwardness, my timidness and loudness.
Upon reflecting on both descriptions, I found that similarity between Malaika and I’s description of me was because of the looking glass self. Malaika acted as a mirror for my self-concept which is why we coincided in some descriptions, however, it is unavoidable that there will be differences due to the normal bias I have for myself. Some descriptions that I wrote may be inaccurate because rather than seeing myself in Malaika’s eyes, I went straight through and described myself with my own vision. It was also possible that my perspective of Malaika affected the I saw I saw her see me. I may have projected my own thoughts on her perspective of me. Furthermore, the similarities in both descriptions are acts that are mostly performed by me at the Front Stage, hence Malaika was able to put descriptions of me that was easily scene in different settings, like school. Given that we also hangout, She was also able to see perform at the off-stage region that is why she is knowledgeable about my love for cats and animals in general. Lastly, she was also able to see me perform at the backstage, where I am able to freely become myself. She was able to take note of my insecurities and other inner workings about myself. But, the backstage also explains the differences. This is because even though she has seen me in some instances performing at the backstage, she still has not fully seen all my ‘performances’. Which goes back to me projecting myself onto the perspective of Malaika in relation to how she sees me.
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